Actions speak louder than words…

Few days back while browsing through the newspaper I read about a sign language workshop on last weekend. Thought of enrolling for it just out of curiosity. Before attending the workshop surfed the internet for some background information. In spite attended the workshop, equipped with very little background of sign language, deafness, and none about the hearing impaired people.

Basically it was an introductory workshop to the Indian sign language organized by a Pune based organisation- Avanti (http://avanti-pune.blogspot.com/) in association with Ali Yavar Jung National Institute for the Hearing Handicapped, Mumbai. The workshop was meant for hearing as well as hearing impaired people. So, the whole workshop was being interpreted in sign language and vice-versa (I picked up many words in sign language that way).

The workshop was interesting from the very beginning. To give some food for thought we were asked to answer questions like how would each one of us define ‘normal’, ‘natural’ and ‘special’. I found it extremely difficult as unfortunately very few can answer these questions without sounding prejudiced

At the workshop they not just introduced us to sign language (I learnt the alphabets and basic simple sentences in sign language- it was fun and left us wanting for more)but touched upon topics like the different categories of deafness, problems faced by deaf people, about their human rights and so on. A few hearing impaired people shared their experiences and the difficulties they have to face and how easy it is for anyone of us ‘hearing’ people to not even recognize this concern.

The best part about the workshop was that it was interactive in spite of the fact that half the people present at the workshop were hearing impaired and the other half were hearing people.

I wanted to share few of the interesting things that were discussed at the workshop and few that came to my mind…

· I had completely forgotten about this incident until yesterday. During my standard tenth board exams, there was a row of hearing impaired students in my class. They were signing and trying to talk amongst themselves unaware of the sounds they made (in attempt yo speak). They irritated me as I was unable to concentrate (I think that was insensitive of me to feel that way). I was feeling irritated but at the same time guilty for feeling this way. I'm glad I attended this workshop because now I look at this incident in a much different way. I know why I felt guilty, and irritated at the same time.
· They narrated an interesting piece… (Fiction). …Once there is a happy family of four. The parents as wells the two kids are deaf. They use sign language at home. One day a new family comes to stay next door. That is a hearing family. The little boy from the hearing impaired family goes next door to make friends with their hearing daughter. He spends almost an hour at their house but with no interaction. When he comes back home he tells his mum that “Mum, that girl is disabled she can’t sign”
· Few questions were also raised…. why deaf women don’t participate in the beauty pageants (especially in India). All they need is an interpreter and then they are ready to explore a new world. An interesting option came out of this venture. A lady in Pune who trains participants for the Femina Miss India has promised to train a deaf girl for the next year’s contest. Hope we get to see a positive outcome.
· How many of you thought that the film ‘Black’ was really good. And, Amitabh Bachchan and Rani Mukherjee acted really well. What a great job they did with learning the sign language. But did you know that a group of deaf people who went to watch the movie didn’t understand what was happening in the movie. It seems Amitabh Bachchan was really bad with sign language but Rani Mukherjee was a little better. And we hearing people thought that they were really good with sign language. Isn’t that a bit funny or surprising!!
· There are different categories of deafness depending on its degree. Some people can hear with the help of a hearing machine but still they are called deaf. But many of us who can’t see properly and have to wear glasses aren’t called blind. Why?
· The state in India…
In India there are no television channels, which the deaf people can enjoy just like the hearing people. The only news channel that has news for deaf people once a week is the national Doordarshan channel. But that’s no good as apparently in that show they use sign language used by a small deaf community in Delhi and not the Indian sign language. So this news hour is just watched by hearing people, as deaf people spread across India don’t understand this sign language. Similar or worse is the case with films, television serials or cartoon films. Why can’t a deaf person enjoy these like anyone of us…shouldn’t that be a (unsaid) right of theirs?
· In India and many other countries at school level even today hearing-impaired children are forced to learn to speak rather than equipping them with sign language…why? A deaf child, if he works very hard might be able to say a few words but he can go beyond 1000 words in sign language. Why do we want to try and make them “normal”? By making them speak aren't we hindering their development. That’s not fair!
· Just imagine….When you have sore throat or something and you can’t speak properly for a day or two. You get so irritated. Or I will give my own example. Couple of months back I had cold and because of that my ears were blocked and I couldn’t hear properly. That was so frustrating. I thought I was missing out on so many things…missed a joke in a film, missed out on the conversations around me….this was something that happened for three-four days and I had a tough time. So you can imagine how difficult it must be for a person who has to live with this disability. If we can’t treat their disability can’t we at least make an attempt to facilitate communication for them? Can’t we make an attempt just so that they can lead a normal life just like the hearing people?

It was an eye-opener session for me. I mean I have read about it but never recognised its intensity. A person is deprived of communication just because that person can’t hear….is something I can’t imagine!!!

Hopefully in June they are going to start sign language classes in Pune. I’m very keen on learning sign language just as any other foreign language. If anyone reading this is interested in learning do let me know. I will keep you posted in case I get any updates on the course in Pune. Let’s see…!

I was in a mood to write but had nothing much to say. This piece was just me thinking aloud. These are few of the moments I have experienced. Surely, they are many more but can’t think of them right now and many are too personal to be shared on internet.


Few of the best places (moments) to be in ....

• First rain after the scorching summers
• It’s around 2.30 on a summer afternoon. You are on your bike and a water tanker passes by and you feel cool by the spilling water from the water tanker.
• You are listening to the radio. You are feeling low or may be extremely happy. You so want to listen to a particular song and what a coincidence they play the same song!
• You are feeling very low, you get that one email from that long lost friend that you haven’t met for years...just wondering how you are doing?
• After a western dance stage performance (loud music, scantily clad people, abstract movements) of yours, a really old lady in nine-yard sari walks up to you and gives you a Rs.10 note as a token of appreciation.
• There is a traffic jam on the road, you are struggling to cross the road. On the other side of the road you see a really old couple. They have a nervous, confused smile on their faces. The man lends his finger to the lady and then they cross the road together.
• You are at a party. You are doing your own thing not bothered about others. You are doing that one unique step of yours. And, all of sudden you realize ten others (strangers) are unknowingly following you.
• Getting your first byline in the newspaper.
• Getting an email from a random reader, that he/she read your article couple of months ago and he/she identified with it and wanted to share his/her experience with you.
• Getting unexpected genuine compliments.
• Sitting on a secluded beach. Looking at the sun going down. Feeling the breeze, looking on to the sky, which is coloured with a rare combination of orange and blue. Having someone (that you want to be with you at that time) to share this moment with.
• You have had an exhausting day. You want to switch off from all the hassles. You close the door of your room. Play your favourite song and dance like never before for those 10 minutes.

PS: Feel free to add your experiences to this list. Of course if they are not too personal and you don’t mind sharing them.